I think that men and women use language the same as far as context, but as when comparing content, men and women differ in a large way. For example, I think that if a group of men and a group of women were to have the exact same conversation, I think that the groups would have completely different views about what was said and their feelings about the conversation that transpired.
Unfortunately, I think women have a tendency to be more invested in the conversation at hand then men do. This is not to say that men don't have strong feelings or that one group is more emotional than the other, because I personally do not buy that argument; I think men can be just as emotional as women, they just may not manifest those emotions in a different way than women. I just think that women tend to hold people more accountable on thing that are said in a casual conversation than most men would.
Hi! I have to agree with you on the different processes of thought men and women put into something that was said. Women who get invested into a conversation will often try to discover the "deeper meanings" of something that someone said. On the other hand, men tend to take what was said at face value. I don't know if this is a sign of the sexes processing information differently, but it's entirely possible.
ReplyDeleteThis can often lead to a lot of confusion when something casual is suddenly taken very seriously. I think that this difference is very prominent and you did a good job of laying it out for us! Well done :)
I agree with what you wrote and find many examples in my own relationship with my girlfriend. Women are definetely more able to communicate their emotions naturally, where most males have to pay concious attention to communicate on an emotional level.
ReplyDeleteAs far as women keeping small commitments made in conversations, I have many personal examples. I find many times that I may make a commitment in a casual conversation with my girlfriend without really thinking about it. As soon as I say I'm doing something else, she says "I thought we were going to go do this?". Usually I get in a little bit of trouble, but I'm making a concious effort to fix it
Good post!