2). Think about the filters you use to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. What characteristics or behaviours lead you to judge others as unattractive? Does Duck's theory make sense to you? Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?
When thinking about potential romantic partners, I think that I have a tendency to use all of the provided filters. I think that my difference is maybe the order in which I apply my filters. I would like to think that I do not necessarily base my appeal in people based on Preinteraction Cues (physical beauty, artifacts, nonverbal behavior, etc) before the Interaction Cues (social rewards, conversational management, etc.) I would also like to think that I would consider the Cognitive Cues (attitude similarity, need complementarity, shared values, etc.) before the Preinteraction Cues. I know that the names of these Cues obviously signify when they take place, but I would like to think that the Preinteraction Cues do not cause me to write someone off right away.
When thinking about how I have judged people in the past, I used Cognitive Cues to based how I believe I will interact with that person. If these kind of Cues do not match up with my own, I have a hard time imagining that I would be able to find myself attracted to them or a relationship with them, be that romantic or just friends. My boyfriend now was a person that I was not initially attracted to, but after understanding their Cognitive Cues, I found myself more attracted to him.
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